From An Exasperated Man: What Do Women Want?
Posted: Saturday, August 13, 2011
by Octavia Hansen
Octavia Hansen
To over-simplify, women are looking for a package deal. No, not that kind of package . . .
Let's face it, initially, looks are it, only because it's impossible to know someone inside until you/they speak. I know it's shallow, but looks help. You don't have to look like a movie star, a shave & shower, use some deodorant and use a comb. And before you start saying, "She should take me as I am," (which is true but not always possible) ask yourself what catches your eye. I'm sure you go for a gal who looks good and carries herself well. And I'm positive you have at one time or another shunned the sweatshirt/messy hair person of the moment.
Anyway, what women look for also include pants/jeans that are clean, no holes, shirt/jacket that fits, NOT wearing sunglasses at night, shoes that show attention to detail, clean hands and fingernails. Yes, women look at your fingernails. If you are going to touch her, she doesn't want it to leave dirty smudges on her or her clothes.
Okay, physical attributes aside, women also like someone who makes them laugh, someone who likes to talk and have a few things in common. Guys think it's cool to be a "lone wolf". That's fine if you want to be alone and you like to hang with the guys. You have to like yourself, you want to hang around someone who makes you feel good, about meeting you, about themselves.
And women talk. Let them talk and they will love you. Don't know what to talk about? Ask something about them. People can talk for hours about themselves, and this will reveal a lot so you can decide if you want to know them.
PLEASE don't ask stupid/rude questions like: Is that your real hair color? (Ask this and she will NEVER talk to you again.) Other stupid topics are about sports scores, cage fighting, accidents, operations, funerals or other girlfriends.
AND . . . very important here . . . find out her name. And USE it. And DON'T shorten her name or give her a nick name or a new name. Again, this is a deal breaker. The way someone introduces themselves is the way they want to be addressed. Can't tell you how many men blew it with me when they could not say my name.
Also, if a woman has a friend with her, she will watch how you treat her friend. This is a good indication how you treat others. Make points with her friend and you score with the lady. Trust me, we go to the bathroom in pairs and we TALK, and we will talk about YOU.
Hmmm, anything else women look for? Even tho' this isn't a look -- don't use any crappy pick up line. I've only heard one in my entire life that I at least laughed at. Those NEVER work. Every woman knows a practiced line when she hears it. Don't. Just don't. Keep it basic -- "Hello, my name is _______ and I would like to talk to you."
If she's mean or deceptive, you don't want to talk to her anyway. Just leave.
These are the initial things women look for. The list changes when it looks like it will become a long term affair or something more permanent. But you can burn that bridge when you come to it.
Anything else you need to know, you'll have to ask her.
I dated for too many years than I will admit to here, and know a lot about women. Men are still kinda tricky, but that's the fun part.
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