Phrases Women Say (Men Have Probably Heard These Already)
Posted: Thursday, September 15, 2011
by Octavia Hansen
Octavia Hansen
After ragging on men being socially awkward, here is something from the gals. Women try to exit gracefully from a bad situation but men don't always let them. Listen for these lines and you can be halfway out the door and into a new relationship before the end of the sentence. Women have it drummed into them for life to be nice, and we try, but we can only be as nice as someone will let us. Please don't be mean -- she's trying to let you down gently. There's always more to a story but the bottom line here is that it's over and she wants out. No matter what you do . . . dinner, long talks, vacation away . . . the ending will be the same, only delayed. Accept the quick chop and leave.
1. It's not you, it's me.
Well, actually it's you, but it's hard to argue when she's telling you she's not good enough for you. Not complicated . . . she's leaving.
2. You're a nice person but . . .
Yea, I know, I've heard this, too, and it's a crap way to try to let someone down with kindness. You can be a nice person but sometimes even that is not enough. Two people have to have more in common than just being single. Painful as this may be to hear, move on to someone who wants your company rather than flogging the proverbial dead horse. It's wasted effort trying to keep a non-relationship going when you could be into something new . . . worth a try.
3. I need alone time (or personal space), we're together too much.
This is almost "you're a nice person" excuse. She's still looking around and she'll get back to you after she's tried a few things. You have to decide how long you'll wait, or if you'll wait. Be careful, you may not know where she's been.
4. This is for your own good.
That's a hot one! She's doing you a favor by getting out of the relationship. It means you can stop wasting time and money on her, she's not appreciating it. And no man has ever bought a woman's affections no matter how much he has spent -- she just gets more stuff, but still doesn't want you.
5. You made me do this.
This is a guilt thing. Don't buy it. Even the law agrees that when you are over eighteen, you are responsible for your own actions. If she is a bitch, if she cheats, if she's mean, if she gets fat . . . she did it herself and is trying to blame you. Please don't fall for this emotional blackmail.
6. I think we should see other people.
This means she is already seeing someone, or she's about to see someone. A relationship will coast until a third joins the picture, then things get moving. You could be moving to . . . moving on . . . moving out . . . moving up. Quit wasting your time when you hear this.
7. I'll call you.
Love that! Everyone uses that. Considering most people have five ways of contact just about everyone (mobile phone, house phone, answering machine, computer email and twitter and a few others I don't even know) -- if you don't hear anything, you won't later. For all your mobility and answering machines, don't wait by the phone. This slow torture wears you down and keeps you from enjoying a full life. If you connect -- fine. If you don't hear anything, move on and don't bother waiting. She's trying for a quiet, smooth exit . . . let her.
8. Why can't we be friends.
When you are relegated to a 'friend' you will NOT be anything else. It means you can help, and you can hang around, but you do not have boyfriend privileges and will be ousted quick as she finds what she considers the 'right guy.' By the way, can you help her move?
9. We need to talk.
Men and women should fear these words. It ALWAYS means something is wrong. If you are not in the habit of talking, this is a bad sign she wants to talk now. And let me say this . . . SHE WANTS TO TALK NOW. Even though I am a woman, I do not understand anyone interrupting anything to talk, when they have all the time in the world before and after precious events you waited to view or do. I guarantee you it will not be short, it will not be sweet, it will involve changing the rotation of the universe before life attains any normality, if it ever does, again. Try to look interested and be ready for a change . . . any change. This is where the phrase "Yes, dear." will serve you like no other. Doesn't matter what it is. Just agree. Unless you want to start over with someone else, then you are on your own.
10. Something's wrong but you have to guess.
Women are not the only ones who say this. My answer to anyone who tries to pull this on me: "I'm not a mind reader. If I was, I'd be at the craps table in Las Vegas, I'd buy a lottery ticket and I would already know about you." Say this at your own risk -- things have been known to become airborn in your direction upon reciting this but it makes a valid point.
There are plenty more phrases where these came from, hope you don't encounter more than your fair share in life. Listening always helps, hugs can soothe a tantrum and life is only as complicated as we make it.
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