Looks Before Brains 'Cause Men See Better Than They Think
Posted: Friday, September 23, 2011
by Octavia Hansen
Octavia Hansen
Why are men so hung up on looks? In this glamour cesspool of life, let me tell you how women think. I already know how men think, and what they think, or if they think. I'm a gal. I'm tying to be encouraging here.
Men are big on looks, the same way women are, because that's all you have to go on in the beginning. Until anyone opens their mouth to prove there is more or less a brain and a personality, what else is there? Yes, it's shallow but I've NEVER heard a guy or gal say. "Wow! What an I.Q. on that person! And a heart of gold, too! Jackpot!" See . . . it even sounds stupid.
Five cats? Hope you love cats, they are her children.
Still lives at home? Not much on working.
Death Metal fan? Rap? Classic Rock? Which songs? Their taste in music will tell you if they are mindless trend followers or pick out what they really like. And if you don't like what they listen to, it will be a constant argument at home or in the car as to anyone's listening pleasure and the other's slow torture.
Most men don't realize women are a package deal. It's everything or nothing. Men tend to ignore or try to forget or get around things they don't like, this is actually reasonable since it's almost impossible to like everything about a person. Unfortunately, some things ignored early will come back and bite you later. The dating person is completely different from the everyday person. When dating, everyone arrives looking good and fresh and when you are tired, you split. When it gets more serious, you will see what it takes to maintain a beautiful surface. It's not pretty and it's usually expensive, financially and emotionally.
Most men also don't realize a woman is giving them clues before they even speak.
Long fingernails. She spends time and money on that, away from you but probably with your wallet at some point.
Hair color, highlights or hair extensions. That takes more time and money and she'll usually put her all into that look only when going out; she doesn't need to doll up around the house, especially if she's not working or there's nothing special on the calendar.
Makeup. She will NOT look good in the morning. Unless you retreat to separate bedrooms after a good time at night, this is the woman men have been known to gnaw off their own arm so they can leave without waking her. What you see is NOT what you get.
Strapless tan. Cute as it is beside the pool, that means she's by the pool. She's not cooking, cleaning, reading a book or keeping up with current affairs or your interests. They want someone to admire them. And they probably want someone who looks good beside them. How long can you be her audience or her accessory?
Someone not so interested in looks, yours or theirs, has more to talk about. Every person you meet and like is not your soulmate but can be an interesting incident in life. There are lots of someones out there and there are more women than men in any given population so you won't run out of dates.
Try to keep things happy and light when you meet someone. No one wants to hear about the latest funeral you attended, any operations or the state of yours or the national economy. And if she starts talking bad about her last boyfriend -- beware! She'll do this about you later, too.
And, I try to side with my sisters but it's not always possible . . . a lot of women are stupid. They make stupid choices thinking he'll change, or she'll change him, or she can get past something. This NEVER works, and unfortunately, everyone must find this out for themselves. Everyone projects -- they find a look they like in someone else and think that's everything. Life can be cruel . . . what you see is NOT what you get. Spending the night and seeing someone in the cold, harsh light of morning will scream reality!
Some quick tips:
Don't talk about sex first thing. Yes, it's on everyone's mind. Really want to get closer? Don't mention sex at all. Wait until she says something about it. And she will, and then she will be interested. You talk about it first and it appears that it's your only interest.
Don't stare at her chest. She'll bring it with her every time, you don't have to try to hypnotize it.
If the gal you want to talk to is with a friend, be kind to the friend, even if you don't like her. It makes BIG points with the one you want to talk to. And when women go to the bathroom, they will talk about how nice you are. And we talk, that's why we go to the bathroom in pairs.
When a woman tells you her name, DON'T say it's your mom's, or sister's, or ex's or anyone else you know. Every woman wants to think she's the only one, what's the harm in letting her think that way? And DON'T change her name or shorten her name or give her a nickname. People introduce themselves the way they want to be called. Mess that up and they will not talk to you.
Remember her name and use it.
This is how women think.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Rich. Original. True to life and funny. That thing about changing names is so true. Call people what they want to be called. The best line you have ever written in my short exposure to you is: "Don't stare at her chest. She'll bring it with her every time. You don't have to hypnotize it." Keep writing you have talent deep and wide.
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